All Black Everything

Bit of a late post from last week. I don't even know what took me so long to upload it, but hey, better late than never. For once, the weather in London wasn't that bad so I figured it was the perfect time to whip out my new faux leather shorts I got from work. Ofcourse it only rained later on. I swear this weather is so uninspiring when it comes to dressing up, I hate winter. Anyway, hope you all have a blessed week. Till the next post :)

Faux Fur jacket  - From a friend 

Striped Top - H&M 

Faux Leather Shorts - H&M 

Cut-Out Boots - eBay 

Lippy - Up The Amp 

Mpho x 

Can't Raise A Man

I've Been That Girl… 

If you're sad like me and obsessed with shows such as Love & Hip Hop, Real Housewives of Atlanta etc. then I am 100% sure you know all about Being Mary Jane (if you don't get to know!) All these shows have one thing in common and that is LOVE. You see it all on these shows. Men cheating and vice versa, being the other woman, being second best, unrequited love, falling in love, you name it. Yes, you may argue that they're scripted, it's not real, it's for our entertainment and so on, but truth be told… We have all been there, and can relate some way or another.

What I always find interesting is how these women handle these situations they find themselves tangled and caught up in. And the saddest reality of them all is the patience within these women that endure years of endless cheating and lies. Why is this? Is it fear? Are you appeasing your loneliness? Self-esteem issues? And the craziest thing of all, is that after all the bullshit, you turn around and make excuses for him! I won't even mention the other thing, because I refuse to believe that that alone can make any woman stay (you know what i'm talking about.. yes that!) One thing I've learnt in the past is that 9 times out of 10, that man will never leave his wife/girlfriend for you, he's having his cake and eating it too.

Let me make one thing clear, I am not talking about married women here. There are many cases and a thousand reasons why married women choose to stay and try to work things out, the main reason being the kids etc. I'm sure after 20+ years of marriage the thought of just upping and leaving is the most daunting challenge ever. But, we won't go into all that, because firstly I am not married and secondly, that is a whole 'nother post in itself. I am referring to some of you ladies out there. What are you waiting for exactly? A ring to make it all better? (sarcasm)

"Ain't nothing like self-love".

I think the biggest mistake any women can make is thinking she can change a man. I see it all the time. But do you know what you're doing girl? You're making him "better" for the next one. Why spend years moulding someone into your 'perfect' guy for someone else to swoop in and "get" the re-modified model? Or maybe I'm wrong… Maybe you can change a man, maybe you will be the one to make him see what he's been blind to? Mmmm…

"The RIGHT guy will arrive at the RIGHT time, without you having to change… Neither of you will be PERFECT, but you'll be PERFECT for one another".

This post comes after a conversation I had last night with one of my girls. She was telling me how happy she is, and how good it feels to actually be with someone who feels the same way about you. No second-guessing yourself, no mind games. And I felt so happy for her. I couldn't agree more. I wondered for a split second why some girls settle with being second best. Don't they want to know how it feels also?

We sounded like two old (but wise) grandma's talking about relationships and how "bad boys" would not get you far in life and that rubbish myth about nice guys finishing last. And it's moments like these when I think about how much growing up my friends and I have done over the past years. Talking about real things in life. Don't you just love those deep, meaningful, thought-provoking conversations with your girls?

To be honest with you, this post could go on forever, there is so much to talk about surrounding this topic, but I think I will leave it here or ill be here all night. What are your thoughts? Why do you think some women choose to stay for so long? Can you relate? Comment below :)


Disclaimer
I am no relationship expert. I'm a work in progress myself, but the mistakes I've made in the past have been a lesson and most importantly a teacher. I'm simply expressing my thoughts and opinion, thinking out loud. If you're offended, well maybe something I said hit home and maybe you need to wake up and smell the coffee…

And on that note…

Jay's On My Feet

 Joinin' The Hype...

I know what you're probably thinking… Yes I do have tiny feet, I'm a size 3. My lovely boyfriend got me a pair of Jordan 5's for my birthday after months of pestering him. As you have probably gathered, I am not really a trainer sort of girl, infact, apart from converse and the odd platform trainers these Jordan's have earned the title of my "first pair of proper trainers".

Well, technically speaking that's not entirely true. I have very fond memories wearing pink K Swiss Tongue Twisters, who remembers those? That alone should tell you how long it's been since I had trainers lol. 

I've been planning to wear my new babies since I got them but for some weird reason I felt so maternal towards them, I didn't want to wear them outside incase I got them dirty, but I finally did it, and guess what? The minute I made it as far as the train station, it rained like I have never seen it rain before (typical!).. I was so gutted.

A leather jacket would've completed this look, however, I didn't take any chances, it's been so cold lately I decided to wear my parka jacket instead. Kept the outfit quite simple, perfect for a long day at uni. 

Netted Baseball Tee - Primark 

Leggings with Leather Panel - H&M 

Fringed Leather Backpack  - Bank (Birthday gift) 

Lips - Ruby Woo by MAC (Birthday gift)

Get Your Life!

At midnight on the 13th of December, bitches across the world were proclaiming how KING BEY "gave them life" over the world's best kept secret… Her self-titled album, and not just any old album, no, no, a VISUAL album, complete with 14 songs and 17 videos. What a total surprise right? I mean, she literally created history. What other artist has ever even thought to do that? She dropped the album with no warning and no promotion. Beyonce is a pure and utter genius, she didn't have to promote, she had everyone doing it for her!

I absolutely love Beyonce, but after the 1st listen of the album I was probably the only person in the world rolling my eyes into the back of my head. Don't get me wrong, one or two (or three) of the songs were doing it for me, but the rest I was just not feeling. You see, i'm one of those people that need to listen to something a gazillion (is that even a word?) times over before I make up my mind on it. This was a whole new Beyonce. Ratchet Beyonce. Beyonce that literally dedicates the whole album to Jay's package and bedroom skills kind of Beyonce lol. I still don't know how to feel about this to be honest, how sex is the core to all the songs we hear nowadays. Not only that, but the endless tweets about how Beyonce "slayed" lives just annoyed me, I just couldn't fathom how sad some people sounded, idolising someone in this way, it baffled me. Why is it okay for Beyonce to sing/talk about sex so much and act a certain way but when the likes of Rihanna and Miley Cyrus do it it's a different story?. Can anyone relate? no? Didn't think so…

Fast-forward a month and some days, I have finally caught on, I got on the bus. Yasss hunty! (ratchet behaviour due to listening to the album). On a serious note, I take back some of the things I said and my pre-judgement about the album. I have been listening and watching the videos non-stop and I must say it was a very creative and clever move on her part. She has definitely shut me up and set the bar very high for other women in the industry.

What did you first think about the album? Has your opinion changed? What's your favourite song? Comment below :) 

One of my favourite tracks on the album:

Rocket

OOTD

Studded Leather Jacket - Topshop 

Faux Fur Gilet - Charity Shop 

Crop Top - Primark 

Skater Skirt - New Look 

Cut-Out Leather Boots - Topshop 

Mpho x 

Happy Birthday To Me

Capricorn. 

It's monday, therefore, that can only mean one thing… Ive recovered from my birthday shenanigans! This past weekend marked my 22nd birthday (yes I know I don't look it) and what an amazing weekend it was. I'm pretty sure people are sick and tired of seeing my lime dress plastered all over their wall on Facebook and Instagram feed, but I don't care, look away lol!

After a massive 21st party last year, and all the stress that came with planning a party, I decided to keep things simple this year. Over the last year I've been doing some soul searching and making some life changing decisions. A big part of those changes have been re-evaluating the company I keep, and ending a lot of so-called "friendships". It's really true what they say.. "You aint growing up if you aint losing friends".

On friday, I had the most amazing dinner, with some of the closest people to my heart. Words can't describe how much fun I had. At one point, I caught myself just looking around the table with a goofy smile, watching everyone in deep conversations whilst divulging their plates of food. The food in Preto Rodizio is so amazing, I'm drooling now just thinking of the meat. Every other minute skewers with different cuts of meat came to the table, drinks were flowing (which resulted in some ratchet behaviour) thank God I chose not to wear a body hugging dress. Oh, and of course the presents were a bonus :)

It was quite overwhelming, the love I felt. The feeling of people being there for you and only having your best interests/intentions at heart. The older I get I've grown to realise that life is not about being popular but by having real friends and family around you.

What great start to my year! I can't wait to see what else 2014 has in store for me…

Mpho x

Reflectin'

First of all let me take the time to wish everyone a Happy New Year.

This blog post is long overdue, one of my New Years resolutions was to be consistent with my blog posts, but as per usual I having been living up to my name of 'Procrastination Queen', and putting stuff off for the next day, which turns into the next week! But, that is all about to change. You're probably rolling your eyes thinking "ohh, everyone says that", but I have made a promise to myself because time time waits for no-one. 

I don't know what it is about an approaching birthday that makes you think about every aspect of your life, especially the future. I know I'm not alone in this, because in these last few weeks, I have engaged in countless conversations with close friends about life and what we want to do etc.

Do you ever find yourself just looking around at your peers thinking, "wow they've got so much going on for themselves, what am I doing"? Well, that's all I seem to be doing these days. I think a part of that is because of this cut-throat industry i'm in. There's so much pressure and competition and boy am I feeling it alright. I know exactly what it is I want and need to do to make it, so there is no excuse. I know my potential so sitting around in my room doing nothing all day is just not going to fly anymore.

Apart from hating the course I was doing in Birmingham with a passion, a huge reason why I decided to quit it was because I wanted to be in London.. 'The land of opportunities' lol and I feel like I haven't taken advantage of this great city and what it has to offer. I mean, I've been to one or two exhibitions and events but it's not enough.

Okay, I've just read what i've written and I sound so miserable! gosh! I think ill cut this post short before I bore you to death with my inner thoughts, then again this is called 'DIARYofanextrovert' right?  So it's only right that I vent/share some of my thoughts with you from time to time. With all this spare time I have had on my hands, I've been doing some hardcore thinking about the blog and it's context, and I must say I'm excited. Watch this space haha!

"You have the same hours in the day as Beyonce"

Mpho x